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GirlZone now features a regular Tao-Girl column
(along with the first chapter of Tao-Girls Rule!). 

What Does Your Name Stand For?
By C.J. Golden
Have you ever watched competitive ice-skating? If so, you’ve witnessed men and women perform some pretty amazing feats as they glide around the rink; they twirl, they swirl, they jump and they twist. And they often execute an intricate maneuver called a Salchow. This is a jump that has the performer take off from the back inside edge of his skate and then land on the back outside of the opposite skate.

While it might be interesting to read about the Salchow and watch it being performed, the part that grabs my attention the most is that this move is named after a person: Karl Emil Julius Ulrich Salchow, a figure skater who dominated the sport in the first decade of the 20th century. It was in 1909 that he first performed the jump that was later name in his honor.

Nice, right, to have a world-class figure skating maneuver named after you?

There are many instances in our vocabularies in which certain words and their associated actions are named after the people who originated them. The term for this is eponym.

An other example of an eponyms is the word sandwich, which was named when the Earl of Sandwich requested his meat to be served between two slices of bread, thus making it easier and faster to eat. When visually challenged people are able to read by using braille, they can thank Louis Braille, a French teacher of the blind who invented this system of writing. Then there is the verb mesmerize named for the 18th century doctor, Dr. Franz Mesmer, who introduced the use of hypnosis (mesmerize) when working with patients.

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“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
- Carl Rogers
By C.J. Golden
Welcome to 2011. It’s exciting to be starting a new year: one that is filled with endless possibilities. That’s what New Year resolutions are all about. We have the opportunity to reinvent ourselves in January. All the things we don’t like about ourselves and our lives can be magically fixed because we now have this chance to start over. Of course we could have done so at any point this past year, but there is something about the freshness of a new year that makes us feel anything is possible. After all, if the year is new, why can’t we also be renewed?

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Here's a bit of the "back to school" article:

By CJ Golden

Today you are You, that is truer than true.
There is no one alive who is Youer than You.
-Dr. Seuss

As I write this, I’m sitting in a little café in a town in Vermont – population less than 5,000 people. What strikes me is the differences among these people: tall, short; heavy-set, slim; young, older, old (that would be me). And everyone has their own style of dress which highlights their individuality. How refreshing it is to see them all, for each woman and girl that passes by my table appears to be so very comfortable in her skin. They recognize their uniqueness and flaunt it for all the world to see.

How about you?

As you prepare for the new school year; as you consider your clothing purchases; your hair style; even your nail color; you need to make a decision about how you want to present yourself. Do you want to follow some “prescribed” style to prove you are part of “the crowd”? Or would you like to show the world that you are one of a kind by wearing clothing and accessories that authenticate your best self?

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The Phantom Paragrapher
Friday, August 13, 2010

Interview with CJ Golden : Authoress of Tao-Girls Rule

1) Tell us about your book Tao Girls Rule?

Tao-Girls Rule! is part philosophy, part self-help, and all girl-power.
The book was born as a result of working with hundreds of teen and pre-teen girls around the country; listening to their stories; hearing their concerns; and recognizing that they were often missing a strong role model to help them deal with their life challenges.
And so, I created “Tao-Girl”, the personification of a girl who understands the ancient philosophy of acceptance – the Tao - and combines that with a dynamic spirit; one which aids her in remaining strong, courageous and confident as she travels the path of her life.
The book, then, combines biographies, quotes and anecdotes which shows the girls how to be spirited individuals who make the most of their uniqueness while they strive to live a life of grace.

2) Have you followed the rule of Tao in your life and how has it helped you ?

Absolutely, although that was not always the case. In my younger days I had a very difficult time accepting the concept of individual uniqueness, always comparing myself to others and coming out on the short end. I was never as pretty as/thin as/smart as/popular as/ the other girls in school. This led to a severe lack of self-esteem which permeated all that I undertook and lasted through my adult years.
Discovering, and living, with the philosophy of Tao changed the perception I held of myself; allowing me to accept my weaknesses while recognizing my strengths. The Tao taught me that I am, indeed, a capable woman who can travel the path of life – filled with transitions and challenges – meet them all head on and continue to grow in strength and confidence.
I wish I had understood this when I was a teen – I certainly would have found those difficult years less stressful and filled with more joy.
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